I'm struggling today, let me explain why.
My IVF #1 2ww produced no symptoms, no cramps, no spotting, nothing that made me think it had worked. As you know it didn't work.
I am now 4 days post transfer (7 days post retrieval) and I am feeling exactly the same as last time. So my logic says it's not working.
I know that it is early, but I can't help this sinking feeling that has come over me today. There's so much at stake and it's all or nothing. IVF #2 proved we have an egg issue, I'm never going to spit out loads of eggs, so this is always going to difficult for us.
How do I get out of this state of mind?
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When I went through this a few months ago, I was so determined that it was NOT going to work. I even cried to my husband a few days after transfer asking him why it didnt work (meanwhile it did, but I was setting myself up for bfn). I think it's all about your mindset. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst- bec when it does happen you will be surprised. If It dosnt (GD forbid) than you will have already expected it.
That is what truly helped me.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your little ones.
I can't imagine how hard it must be to wait like this. Please don't give up - I'm hoping for you.
It's so hard to stay optimistic. For what it's worth, I was completely and utterly convinced that it didn't work. So, my theory is that 2ww "symptoms" are wildly inconclusive. So, try to hang in there and distract yourself for the next week. And I'll be hoping for the best!!
The 2WW is so agonizing partially because every part of you WANTS a sympton to show. You have worked so hard, you have done everything--and then nothing! The thing is that if you had gotten pregnant "normally" you wouldn't have any symptons at this point--and you would be blissfully unaware! Its the fact that we are so aware of this event that I think we try so hard to tune into our body. Frankly, at this point, I would say try to distract yourself from looking for symptons. And I know that is So Damned Hard. But really, the longer you can try to distract yourself the better you will be.
My 1st IVF I had cramps, I had what I thought were symptons, and it was a BFN. The 2nd IVF, I had no symptons and I was sure it was another BFN, and it was BFP. I think its a crap shoot and there is no rhyme or reason. Unfortunately.
Keeping you in my thoughts!
Hey you.. I can only imagine the stress behind IVF #2... Symptoms are not a determining factor on whether this is going to be a BPF or a BFN. Keep your head up my dear!
I swear, right after transfer they should give us a magic pill that will knock us out for the next two weeks. This part has to be the most agonizing of the whole process.
Since that's not available, maybe it will help that I read recently on IVFconnections that the most common pg symptom during the 2ww is no symptons at all. So even though last time you had no symptoms b/c it was a BFN, I'm betting this time it's a BFP!!!
My fingers are crossed for you. It's way too early to know about symptoms. Mine didn't start til about 7dp3dt. I really hope it worked!!
Here's to no symptoms meaning a BFP! I'm rooting for you!
Not giving up hope! I hear so many things about there not being ANY symptoms in the 2ww to look for..
Sending you prayers every day my friend=)
Don't write it off. You just can't know yet. I've read so many different people on their symptoms, it could still be BFP.
The 2WW is the biggest nightmare. Stay positive and hang on in there.
Thinking of you - and looking forward to meeting you soon!
xx
I also had no symptoms... and mine worked. Try to keep yourself as busy and distracted as possible! Good luck!
For what it's worth, I didn't have any symptoms and it didn't mean a BFN was in my future.
I can't believe you'll know in less than a week!
(And thank you so much for the sweet nomination. It's always fun to hear what people think about your blog, especially when it's so kind.)
I'm so sorry Becks that you are struggling. I know how you feel and have been there many times. Its so hard to stay positive after all we've been through. I think going through so many failed IVF's has made me numb and I don't even want to think about it. THE 2WW is always the hardest. Hang in there and I hope it ends with good news. Hugs to you.
Its too early! Even after I got the beta results I still felt totally normal, so you never can tell. I think I only started feeling *anything* during week 5! Hang in there!
Sending you hugs as this is such a difficult time. Hang in there.
I don't have any good advice because I slump into the same pit of negativity right around the same time in each cycle. It's like the euphoria and crazy pace of the stimming, retrieval and transfer wear off and all I'm left with is the waiting and the worrying and the pessimism.
So, although I don't have any good advice for you, I do have tons of understanding to offer. Hang in there, I'm doing that lucky funky chicken dance for you. Please, please work for Becks!
I find that I can't change my state of mind. Meditation may help. Personally, my meditation is called knitting. :) Watch movies. Go somewhere and keep busy. That's what helps me most in the 2ww.
It's impossible to feel optimistic about it. At least is is for me. Sorry.
keeping hoping for the best Becks! I hope that the rest of the 2ww goes by very fast. Good luck!
you are on my thoughts and prayers
I have no brilliant advice either, just lots of empathy. The 2ww always sucks, but most especially after IVF. Try your best to simply not think about it. Watch mindless TV and movies, immerse yourself in a good book, cook, knit, anything!
Sending good thoughts your way to get through this wait quickly and hopefully with a little peace. But most importantly for a good outcome!
I swear the 2ww is the worst part of IVF!
The one thing I keep telling myself is "Most women don't know there pregnant until they miss a period" - Those words are a great comfort to me.
We can speculate and wonder until we drive ourselves nuts!
If drinking was an option at this point, I would say drink. But it isn't. I know how you feel about the egg issues. I have done 2 stim cycles and have never gotten more than 4-5 follies. It is rough.
It is still probably too early for implantation, so symptoms wouldn't be there yet. Don't give up hope.
I'm in exactly the same boat as you and my Dr's haven't given up on me!
They say whilst i'm producing 2 good embryos for transfer then there's hope. You're doing that and there's not reason why one of those (or even both) might be that baby.
It's just about finding the good egg(s). Popping out loads of eggs doesn't necessarily do it. I've seen too many girls with huge egg tallies with BFN's. I've seen enough girls with only 1 embryo get a BFP.
DON'T YOU GO GIVING UP BECKS! You can do this! xx
Hey 2ww buddy! I am starting to over analyse my symptoms or lack there of. 1 week nearly down and 1 to go! How are you holding up? Thinking of you!
I cried to my husband at 4dp5dt convinced that the current cycle didn't work. I even called the clinic to setup my follow up appt.
The 2ww is so stressful. I am thinking a lot about you and hope that the time passes by quickly and that you get a BFP on this cycle!
Oh wow.
IVF has no rhyme or reason. Cycle to cycle can be same, different, symptoms, none....just to screw with us even more. Don't despair. This is a whole new chapter....a whole new chance.
Sigh. Good thoughts......and prayers.
Hi Becks, just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you and I hope things are going a-okay :) xoxox!
I've had cramps in each of my IVFs (3) and 1 FET...and not a single BFP. So don't take a symptom as being indicative of something happening. So many women, who have gone on to have a BFP, have reported not having a single symptom. Progesterone can cause cramps and symptoms that will make you swear you are pregnant. Just take good care of yourself right now, and do everything to focus on those embies implanting. :-)
Becks, Don't lose faith. It's way too early yet to tell.
It is hard once the initial euphoria has faded post transfer but try to stay positive.
Take it one day at a time.
Thinking of you.
Von.
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